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Although marriage is a possibility, I know it isn’t for me. Why you may ask? There are many valid reasons that I can come up with and have put a lot of thought into that are worth exploring further. At the end of the day, I’ve learned that I have to do what’s best for my partner and me.
It’s not that I don’t believe in marriage or that it can work for some couples, but I just don’t think it’s for me. I’m happy not being married and don’t feel like getting married would make me any happier. Below I’ll explore the reasons why I’m comfortable not getting married so anyone reading this can get a better understanding of where I’m coming from.
Avoid the Wedding Planning
I’m happy not getting married because I can avoid the costly and stressful wedding. Wedding planning is a significant undertaking of my time and money. I’m content investing my time and money into other activities and areas of my life, such as buying a new home and travelling. I’m good with not having to pretend like I’ve been planning my wedding since I was a little girl. It’s simply not for me, and I prefer to spend my days how I choose and not sitting around planning a wedding.
We’re Both Already Committed
Another reason I’m happy not being married is that we’re both already committed to the relationship. In fact, we still have many rights and protections being in a defacto relationship. I don’t have to worry about my partner not being faithful because we’ve had discussions around the matter and we both feel confident that we’re committed to the relationship without a marriage certificate to prove it.
I Have More Freedom
I also honestly don’t enjoy the stereotypes and gender roles that come along with getting married. While I don’t want to be out dating, I also don’t want to be tied down to marriage. I don’t want to be in the kitchen cooking dinner every night. Sometimes I prefer to go out with my friends or to spend time alone doing what I love, instead of at home with my partner. I have more freedom by not being married and am happier for it. There are no grand expectations or anyone telling me what I should or can or can’t do with my time.
My Career is Important to Me
I consider myself a career person and don’t want to feel pressure to be a wife too. I’m happy in my relationship and not being married because I can focus more time and energy on my job. I want to go after a promotion at work and make more money. I don’t want to have to worry about spending a lot of time at home and then to feel guilty because I also want to work a lot. My job makes me happy and helps me to feel fulfilled. I don’t want to be pulled in too many different directions or told that now that I’m a wife I should give up on my dreams of furthering my career and being the breadwinner.
