We’ve all been through it, regardless of age, marital status, or life circumstances: the dreaded dry spell. Whether you’re suffering from a lack of physical intimacy or romance in general, it can be a painful and lonely time. And it isn’t just relegated to those of us who are single, either: even us married couples can experience dry spells in our relationship when things just don’t seem to “click”, or one or the other partner just doesn’t seem interested.
It can be easy to throw in the towel in times like this, especially for those of us who are of a mature age. It’s embarrassing to talk about sometimes, especially when our partner seems to be rejecting us. But the truth is, sometimes problems are in our head, and when it comes to issues of a sexual or romantic nature, often we blow things up and make them worse by not communicating. Rather than listening to those internal voices of panic, instead, talk to your partner and work to find solutions when it comes to romance, bedroom shenanigans, or whatever other intimate problems you may be having.
One popular method for older couples who are having a bit of a dry spell is couples sex therapy. Now, many of us may hear those two words and immediately start scoffing. The indignity of it! So many of us, especially the more mature of us, assume that because we’re up in years that we know everything and couldn’t possibly need counseling. It’s a waste of money, we say. I don’t need therapy, I’m doing just fine on my own. But the truth is, when we get beyond our egos and embarrassment, we could all use a little bit of therapy. And sex and/or couples therapist is a wonderful investment for any couple, married or otherwise, who find themselves in a bit of a lull, can’t seem to connect on an intimate level, or who just want to spice things up a bit.
Sex therapists do all sorts of cool things, other than just sitting you down and working out your issues (and we all have them; there’s no sense in denying it). Sex therapists work with couples of every age, gender identity, and sexuality, from married couples to partners and everything in between, meeting you on your level to discuss any issues, questions or problems you may be having. Couples who have seen a sex therapist report that their sex life improved, as did their intimacy and romance within their relationship. Seeing a sex therapist can really free you up and have you feeling more comfortable not only with your partner but yourself.
Making an appointment with a sex therapist or couples counsellor is a wonderful gift to give your partner and yourself. It’s a worthy investment for any couple, regardless of age, who wants to spice things up, get out of a rut and enjoy great fun and intimacy with their partner for years and years to come.
